Per reports, when this amazing woman met a gay man at church, she felt the sparks flying. Her name is Bryn and she reportedly explained why she pursued a relationship with an openly gay man despite the fact that she wanted a heterose-ual relationship with a straight man. “I noticed Matthew on my first Sunday in that congregation. He sticks out, not just because of his height but also because of his curly hair, infectious smile, and exuberance for life.” According to Bryn, Matthew made the first move, coming to talk to the woman. She feared that because he was so handsome, he was a player who simply wanted to sleep with her. She was overjoyed to learn that he was a gay man.
“I’m not sure how, but we started talking about books. In that short conversation, I learned we both loved books, care a lot about gender and racial equity, and might enjoy getting to know each other more. He asked for my phone number, I gave it, and we parted ways.” Their first date was a disaster. They were supposed to go out with a group of friends, but many people were unable to show up. Instead, Matthew’s close female friend was the only other person who showed up, and she “monopolized the conversation, talking about inside jokes and people only they knew.” The author felt that this girl was in love with Matthew, too.
However, he surprised her when he invited her out on a date with just the two of them. “Matthew then called me and asked if I would hang out with him — with just him. We went on an only-Matthew-and-Bryn date. It was like magic. We talked and talked, and he wove us beautiful crowns out of some pruned cherry blossom branches.” Eventually, Matthew wanted to share something with Bryn. “We talked and talked, and it seemed like he had something on his mind that he wanted to tell me. When he said, ‘I’m gay,’ I wasn’t entirely surprised, but I also didn’t really care. If he was choosing to spend time with me, then why would his se-ual orientation matter? He was choosing to spend time with me. It never occurred to me to feel threatened by his sexual orientation.”
Months went by, and Bryn started dating another man, too. However, she had to move and needed help, so she texted Matthew. “When Matthew and I saw each other again, it was like … sparks? Fireworks? An explosion? Our eyes met, and we SAW each other. I was mad at the boxes, the things to move. I just wanted to spend time with him. I felt the same energy from him.” After the move, Matthew suggested that they get back together. They did and decided to get married. “We decided to get married in Utah, where much of our extended family lived.” However, “because of our religious beliefs, there was a limit to our intimacy before marriage.” Although Matthew is gay, the couple manages to make things work. They even started a family.